Trauma Informed Practice

Why Trauma-Informed Practice Matters in Dispute Resolution

By the time most people arrive at mediation, they are already carrying a significant emotional load. Separation, conflict, financial stress, fear for their children’s wellbeing, and sometimes a history of domestic or family violence — all of this affects a person’s capacity to think clearly, communicate effectively, and make sound decisions.

Standard dispute resolution processes can inadvertently make this worse: putting people in the same room before they are ready, using language that feels threatening, or moving too quickly through difficult territory. For trauma survivors, this can trigger responses that make genuine resolution nearly impossible.

Trauma-Informed Practice is an approach to mediation that recognises these realities. It doesn’t treat trauma as a barrier to get around — it designs the entire process around the needs of people who are carrying it.

“A trauma-informed approach doesn’t slow mediation down. It makes it actually work — by creating the conditions in which people can think, speak honestly, and make decisions they’ll stand behind.”

At Brisbane Mediations, trauma-informed practice is not a specialist add-on. It is embedded in how we work across all our services — and is especially central to our family and separation practice, led by Crystal Montaldo.

The Six Core Principles

Drawn from the SAMHSA framework and adapted for Australian dispute resolution practice.

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Safety

Physical, emotional and interpersonal safety is the foundation of everything. This means separate waiting areas where needed, careful seating arrangements, shuttle mediation options, and online sessions — whatever it takes to ensure no one feels trapped or threatened.

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Trust and Transparency

Trust is built through honesty about the process, consistency in how we show up, and never surprising participants with what comes next. We share information clearly, explain what will happen, and keep our word.

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Choice and Control

Trauma often involves a loss of control. Our process actively restores it — giving participants meaningful choices at every stage, from the format of sessions to the pace of the conversation. Nothing is imposed without consent.

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Collaboration

We work with participants, not on them. The mediator’s role is to facilitate, not direct. We share power rather than concentrate it, and treat participants as experts in their own lives and circumstances.

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Empowerment

Our focus is on building capacity, not managing symptoms. We support participants to identify their own strengths, articulate their own needs, and reach agreements they have genuinely shaped — not agreements they were steered into.

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Cultural Respect

Trauma is experienced and expressed differently across cultures. We bring cultural humility to every session — recognising that a one-size-fits-all approach fails many of the people who need support most, including First Nations clients and culturally diverse communities.

What This Looks Like in Practice

Trauma-informed practice shapes every phase of the Brisbane Mediations process.

Before

Preparation and Assessment

  • Comprehensive individual intake sessions for each party
  • Risk and suitability screening — including for family violence, power imbalances and psychological wellbeing
  • Clear information about what to expect, participants’ rights, and the supports available
  • Flexibility in session format — in-person, online, or shuttle mediation based on what is safe
  • Right to bring a support person confirmed

During

The Session Itself

  • Calm, unhurried pace — with breaks available at any time
  • Trauma-sensitive language throughout
  • Active listening and validation of each person’s experience
  • Monitoring of emotional states — recognising when someone is approaching limits
  • Separate rooms or online options when face-to-face is not safe
  • Right to pause or withdraw, without penalty

After

Closure and Follow-Through

  • Clear summary of outcomes and next steps before leaving
  • Debrief opportunity to process the experience
  • Referrals to counselling or other support where needed
  • Follow-up contact to check on agreement durability

Who Benefits from a Trauma-Informed Approach?

The short answer: almost everyone in dispute resolution. But it is especially critical for some.

Survivors of domestic or family violence

Research shows around 41% of family violence survivors still use FDR to resolve disputes. A trauma-informed process ensures this can happen safely.

Separating parents under high stress

Fear for children, financial pressure, grief, and uncertainty all affect decision-making. This approach creates the conditions for clear thinking.

People with a trauma history

For those who carry trauma from childhood, prior relationships, or other experiences, standard processes can trigger unexpected distress.

Culturally diverse and First Nations clients

Cultural safety is part of trauma-informed practice. We adapt our approach to ensure the process is genuinely accessible and respectful.

Anyone who has found conflict overwhelming

If conflict has left you anxious, avoidant, or unable to advocate for yourself, a structured, supportive process helps you participate effectively.

Children, indirectly

When parents are supported to participate without being retraumatised, they protect their own capacity to parent effectively.

A Note on Domestic and Family Violence

Family violence is a feature of a significant proportion of family law disputes in Australia. Research consistently shows that allegations of family violence — including coercive control — arise in many contested parenting matters.

A trauma-informed approach does not assume mediation is always appropriate in these cases. Our screening and assessment process is specifically designed to identify situations where mediation would not be safe — and where court intervention or specialist DV support is the right path instead.

Where mediation does proceed, every element of the process is designed to prevent re-traumatisation, manage power imbalances, and ensure no participant is pressured into an agreement they do not genuinely support.

If you have experienced family violence and are unsure whether mediation is appropriate for you, please call us. We will have an honest and confidential conversation about your options — with no pressure in any direction.

Crystal Montaldo – Principal Mediator

Meet Crystal Montaldo

Principal Mediator • FDRP • Child-Inclusive Practitioner • Lawyer

Crystal holds a Master of Laws in Family Law and Family Dispute Resolution Practice, and a postgraduate specialisation in Domestic Violence. She brings both legal rigour and deep human understanding to every matter she handles.

Trained in Child-Inclusive Practice, Crystal works across the full spectrum of family and separation disputes — including those involving family violence, high conflict, and complex parenting arrangements. She is known for making even the most difficult situations feel manageable.

Her training and experience make her exceptionally well-placed to lead trauma-informed practice at Brisbane Mediations.

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